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News and Notes: Back From San Antonio
Death educators with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) and people in the funeral business with the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association (ICCFA) came together earlier this month in San Antonio, when the two conventions coincided in time and space. It was most gratifying to meet people at both the ADEC and ICCFA conventions who told me they enjoy these occasional newsletters. (Davy Crockett was silent...
FPG’s Funerals of the Future
What will the funeral of the future look like? It may have a big Disney Imagineering component. At the recent International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association (ICCFA) convention, Brad Rex, President and CEO of Foundation Partners Group (FPG), outlined a bold new vision for the funerals of the future. The Orlando-based organization currently owns 39 funeral homes and six cemetery properties in 13 states, and they served 7,000 families...
New Caskets and Urns at 2015 ICCFA Expo
At the 2015 ICCFA expo in San Antonio, I saw numerous new casket and urn choices on display. Along with new players displaying their wares, long-established companies also offered fresh products. Here’s a quick run-down of new items your faithful correspondent discovered. Aurora Aurora featured a new casket model called Homestead, made of poplar with a distressed wood finish. The look was inspired by an independent manufacturer who created...
Football and Basketball Urns
For the true sports fanatic, what could be better than having one's cremated remains put to rest in a football or basketball urn? At the 2015 ICCFA expo, Husein Somji with Blissful Tribute showed off new aluminum urns, some covered in leather to look like full-size footballs and basketballs. There was also a keepsake-sized leather-covered football urn. The remains are placed inside via an opening on the bottom of the urn. While I was at this...
PawsRest Pet Caskets
Pet loss products were a big category at this year's ICCFA convention expo. Mark Brewer with PawsRest Premium Pet Caskets spoke with me about the quality wood caskets they make specifically for the burial of dogs and cats. When his dog died, Brewer couldn't find many good options for burying his beloved pet. There were plastic and cardboard containers, but nothing designed to truly honor a four-legged family member. He decided to make his own...
Executive Coach Builders Vehicles
You usually see plenty of hearses and limos on display at a funeral industry expo, and there were plenty at the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association (ICCFA) expo this year. These vehicles from Executive Coach Builders take the concept higher - high enough to stand up straight inside the vehicle! Dave McPhail points out the features in the ECB Family Coach Sprinter, a combination hearse and family limousine. Usually, you'd...
News and Notes: ICCFA and ADEC Converge
Each April, the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association (ICCFA) and the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) hold their conventions. As a member of both organizations, I've faithfully gone to both over the past few years. They are usually a week or so apart in far flung cities, but this year, they are both April 8-11 in the same hotel in San Antonio, Texas. Whether fate or fluke, my travel budget is grateful....
The Many Faces of Grief and Mourning in Movies
What does grief and mourning really look like? Movies and television shows can help us understand different reactions to loss. Recently, I presented The Many Faces of Grief: Mourning in the Movies, a new film clip presentation in a Death & Dying class at Central New Mexico Community College (a.k.a. CNM). The presentation examined grief and mourning styles/processes as spelled out in the Association for Death Education and Counseling's...
May 1 Symposium – A Beautiful Death
The largest Death Cafe event in the world to date will be held on Friday, May 1 in Las Cruces at the New Mexico State University’s 2015 Dean’s Health Symposium, presented by the College of Health and Social Services. The theme of the conference is “A Beautiful Death: What will you choose?” There will be a host of stellar speakers and workshops that focus on end-of-life care, advance directives and decision-making. It's a free event, and 350...
Je Suis Speech
Yesterday, I competed in the Toastmasters International Speech competition at the Division level, and came away a winner. My speech, Je Suis, didn't get the top prize, but it made a big impression on the audience. And because it was recorded, you can now see it on YouTube! A big thanks to my fellow Albuquerque Challenge Club members for their excellent feedback and support. If you are interested in improving your speaking skills, consider...
Event: April 25 Albuquerque Death Cafe
The next Albuquerque Death Cafe will be held on Saturday, April 25, 2015 from 2:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m. at Gail Rubin’s home. At the Death Cafe, people come together in a relaxed, confidential and safe setting to discuss death and end-of-life issues, drink tea (or your favorite beverage) and eat delicious cake or cookies. If you want to attend, post a comment below to RSVP for address and directions. Or join the Albuquerque Death Cafe Meetup group...
Announcing “Mortality Minute” Radio Spots
“Mortality Minute” Pioneers New Radio Ad Approach for End-of-Life Businesses How do you get people to pay attention to advertising about funeral planning and end-of-life issues without resorting to the old “it’s a gift to your loved ones” line? “Mortality Minute” opens a bold new advertising opportunity for funeral-related businesses who need to reach local consumers. Each 60-second Mortality Minute mini-program provides a light look at serious...
News and Notes: Going Green
Between St. Patrick's Day, the arrival of the first day of spring, and the light green tinge just starting to show on the trees, we're going green this week! This past Sunday, I spoke on "Going Green with Your Final Arrangements" to a great group of folks in Santa Fe. In addition to green burial, we discussed cremation, body donation and Jewish funeral traditions. You can hear the speech for the Journey Santa Fe organization through this blog...
Journey Santa Fe on Greening Final Arrangements
“Going Green with Your Final Arrangements” was the title of my talk this past Sunday at Journey Santa Fe, a regular gathering of thoughtful folks at the Collected Works Bookstore. Among the topics we discussed: green burial opportunities in the Santa Fe area and greater New Mexico, the carbon footprint of cremation, how Jewish burial traditions are naturally green burial, donating your body to science, and what you need to know NOW before...
New Funeral Professional Continuing Education Presentations
The Academy of Professional Funeral Service Practice (APFSP.org) approves thousands of hours of continuing education programs for all states. The Academy recently approved four new programs from A Good Goodbye for funeral director CEUs that are entertaining as well as educational. May and June are typically busy months for funeral directors attending state association conventions and earning continuing education credits to keep certifications...
Movies for The Next Generation of Business Owners
Check out today's guest post on the blog for the American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys. It's titled "Encouraging Succession Planning with Movies." My article focuses on films to facilitate family conversations about how to plan for passing along a family business to the next generation. The films include: The 2014 movie, This Is Where I Leave You, with a scene that shows adult siblings arguing over the joint ownership and management of...
Radio Interview: Prepare to Die!!!
With humans having a 100% mortality rate, but only 25% of adults making end-of-life plans, three-quarters of our population are going to be in for a rude shock when death takes a life. The latest A Good Goodbye Radio interview on FuneralRadio.com features Peter Callan, author of one book with two different titles and cover art: Prepare to Die!!! and Other Stuff Nobody Told You and Preparing for the Inevitable. Both books provide down-to-earth...
Event: March 15 Talk on Green Burial
Journey Santa Fe is a Sunday morning gathering of progressive thinkers who explore, through presentations, issues that influence our daily lives and the lives of future generations. On Sunday, March 15 at 11:00 a.m. Gail Rubin will be the featured speaker at the Journey Santa Fe speaker series. She will discuss “Going Green with Your Final Arrangements.” Topics will include green burial, the carbon footprint of cremation, Jewish burial and what...
Lore White’s Great Self-Penned Obituary
Loré White's obituary started out "When you read this, I will be at the big beautiful golf course in the sky waiting for my tee time. What a wondrous life it has been..." What a great way to start out writing your own life story. The obituary ran a full 16 column inches in Sunday's Albuquerque Journal. She wrote about where she was born, her family members, the different places she lived and how she came to New Mexico. She wrote about her...
Preneed Funeral Planning Thoughts
This article provides some good reasons to pre-plan a funeral, especially if you know burial in a cemetery is the preferred method of disposition. I wrote this story, titled "BEFORE Someone Dies - Some Preneed Thoughts," which just came out in the March 2015 issue of Mortuary Management Magazine. The Saturday before Christmas, a woman called me desperate for help. Her 86-year-old father had just died in the hospital. She and her mother were...
CANCELLED “Doctor, How Long Do I Have?”
THIS EVENT HAS BEEN CANCELLED - LOOK FOR ANOTHER PRESENTATION LATER Having a serious healthcare conversation with your doctor takes effort to ensure clear communications. Learn how to ask questions and be involved in treatment decisions by watching dramatic and comedy films depicting doctor-patient conversations. Also, watch examples of patient-family interactions for tips on improving family communications around serious diagnoses,...