The objective of the Death Cafe is “To increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.” It’s all about an interesting, unstructured conversation – open and free-flowing with no specific agenda.
The Next ABQ Death CafeAlbuquerque Death Cafes will be held online for the duration of the pandemic crisis. Our next online Death Cafe will take place on Zoom on Sunday, October 11 from 3:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. Mountain Daylight Time. To get the link to participate, send a note to Gail [at] AGoodGoodbye.com and let her know you’d like to join in the conversation.
Upcoming ABQ Death CafesHere is the schedule of upcoming Sunday afternoon Albuquerque Death Cafes, to be held online for the foreseeable future.
- Additional Death Cafes October 30 & 31 and November 1 & 2 as part of the Before I Die New Mexico Festival.
- November 22, 2020
- December 20, 2020
Join The Meetup GroupHere’s a way to keep in the loop on upcoming Death Cafes. Join the Albuquerque Death Cafe Meetup group to be kept apprised of upcoming events. Click here to go to the Meetup page.
Your Death Cafe HostAll of these Albuquerque Death Cafes are hosted by Gail Rubin, Certified Thanatologist, and a pioneering death educator. Rubin is a public speaker, a published author of three books, host of a TV interview series and podcast, a blogger, a funeral industry trade journalist, a Certified Funeral Celebrant, and an innovator in the funeral business. She created a conversation-starting game called The Newly-Dead Game®, introduced the Death Café movement in the United States, and held the first Before I Die Festival west of the Mississippi in 2017. Albuquerque Business First named her one of their 2019 Women of Influence.
About Death CafesThe Death Cafe concept was started in the United Kingdom by Jon Underwood. He was influenced by the ideas of Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz, who started holding Cafe Mortel events in France and Switzerland. At these events, people come together in a relaxed, confidential and safe setting to discuss death, drink tea (or your favorite beverage) and eat delicious cake or cookies. Sadly, Jon Underwood, founder of the Death Cafe movement, died suddenly at the age of 44 from a brain hemorrhage caused by undiagnosed acute promyelocytic leukemia, a cancer of the white blood cells. The news was reported by his family on the Death Cafe website. News obituaries appeared in The Washington Post and The New York Times.
The Death Cafe Movement GrowsJon’s mother Sue Barsky Reid and Jon’s sister Jools Barsky plan to continue his Death Cafe work, as Jon requested. To date, the Death Cafe movement has grown to more than 11,209 events in 73 countries worldwide (as of July 2, 2020). For information on how to hold a Death Cafe in your community, review the information at www.DeathCafe.com. Albuquerque was the site of the second Death Cafe held in the United States. Gail Rubin hosted this pioneering event in September of 2012. Lizzy Miles held the first Death Cafe outside the U.K. in Columbus, Ohio in August of 2012.
Death Cafe News CoverageTo get better acquainted with the Death Cafe concept, visit DeathCafe.com or read these articles below:
Open to Hope YouTube VideoHere’s an interview with Gail Rubin by Dr. Heidi Horsley with the Open to Hope Foundation.
- ICCFA Magazine article by Gail Rubin, the trade publication for the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association: “Death Cafes: Sharing some coffee, some cake, and lots of talk about death and dying” Download the PDF!
- The New York Times The New Old Age Blog: Death Be Not Decaffeinated
- USA Today: Death Cafes normalize a difficult, not morbid, topic
- MSN.com: Death Cafe events: tackling a taboo topic over tea (featuring the Albuquerque Death Cafe!)
- The Guardian (U.K. newspaper): Anyone for tea and sympathy? Death Cafes embrace last taboo
- The Boston Globe: Talk about death, hold the sugar
- National Public Radio, NPR.org: Death Cafes Breathe Life Into Conversations About Dying
- The Independent (U.K. newspaper): The death cafe movement: Tea and mortality
- The Vancouver Courier (Vancouver, BC): Death Cafes bring grave matters to life
- The Columbus Dispatch (Columbus, Ohio): Facing death, over tea and cake
- Philly Voice (Philadelphia, Pennsylvania): Philadelphia ‘death cafes’ argue it’s time to bring death out of the closet
- Los Angeles Times/Laguna Beach Coastline Pilot: Death Cafe knocks, gently, on heaven’s door