The objective of the Death Cafe is “To increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.” It’s all about an interesting, unstructured conversation – open and free-flowing with no specific agenda.
The Next ABQ Death CafeThe next Albuquerque Death Cafe will be held Sunday, September 22, 3:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. in the Fifth Floor Lounge at Manzano del Sol Village, 5201 Roma NE, Albuquerque. This is located just south of Lomas Blvd. and just west of San Mateo Blvd. Here is the schedule of upcoming Sunday afternoon Albuquerque Death Cafes: October 20; November 24; and December 15, 2019. All are scheduled from 3:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. at Manzano del Sol Village in the Fifth Floor Lounge. Additional Death Cafes will be held during the Before I Die New Mexico Festival, November 3-10, 2019. Visit www.BeforeIDieNM.com for more details.
Join The Meetup GroupHere’s a way to keep in the loop on upcoming Death Cafes. Join the Albuquerque Death Cafe Meetup group to be kept apprised of upcoming events. Click here to go to the Meetup page.
Your Death Cafe HostAll of these Albuquerque Death Cafes are hosted by Gail Rubin, Certified Thanatologist, and a pioneering death educator. Rubin is a public speaker, a published author of three books, host of a TV interview series and podcast, a blogger, a funeral industry trade journalist, a Certified Funeral Celebrant, and an innovator in the funeral business. She created a conversation-starting game called The Newly-Dead Game®, introduced the Death Café movement in the United States, and held the first Before I Die Festival west of the Mississippi in 2017. Albuquerque Business First named her one of their 2019 Women of Influence.
About Death CafesThe Death Cafe concept was started in the United Kingdom by Jon Underwood. He was influenced by the ideas of Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz, who started holding Cafe Mortel events in France and Switzerland. At these events, people come together in a relaxed, confidential and safe setting to discuss death, drink tea (or your favorite beverage) and eat delicious cake or cookies. Sadly, Jon Underwood, founder of the Death Cafe movement which has grown to almost 9,000 events in 65 countries worldwide (as of August, 2019), died suddenly at the age of 44 from a brain hemorrhage caused by undiagnosed acute promyelocytic leukemia, a cancer of the white blood cells. The news was reported by his family on the Death Cafe website. News obituaries in The Washington Post and The New York Times indicate his date of death was June 27, 2017, as opposed to June 25, as his wife wrote in the blog post. Jon’s mother Sue Barsky Reid and Jon’s sister Jools Barsky plan to continue his Death Cafe work, as Jon requested. More than 6,400 Death Cafe events have been held worldwide since Jon Underwood’s first gathering. For information on how to hold a Death Cafe in your community, review the information at www.DeathCafe.com. Albuquerque was the site of the second Death Cafe held in the United States. Gail Rubin hosted this pioneering event in September of 2012. Gail Rubin interviewed Lizzy Miles, who held the first Death Cafe in the U.S. in Columbus, Ohio, in this 21-minute podcast on FuneralRadio.com.
Death Cafe News CoverageTo get better acquainted with the Death Cafe concept, visit DeathCafe.com or read a few of these articles below: ICCFA Magazine article by Gail Rubin, the trade publication for the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association: “Death Cafes: Sharing some coffee, some cake, and lots of talk about death and dying” Download the PDF! Here’s an interview with Gail Rubin by Dr. Heidi Horsley with the Open to Hope Foundation.
- The New York Times The New Old Age Blog: Death Be Not Decaffeinated
- USA Today: Death Cafes normalize a difficult, not morbid, topic
- MSN.com: Death Cafe events: tackling a taboo topic over tea (featuring the Albuquerque Death Cafe!)
- The Guardian (U.K. newspaper): Anyone for tea and sympathy? Death Cafes embrace last taboo
- The Boston Globe: Talk about death, hold the sugar
- National Public Radio, NPR.org: Death Cafes Breathe Life Into Conversations About Dying
- The Independent (U.K. newspaper): The death cafe movement: Tea and mortality
- The Vancouver Courier (Vancouver, BC): Death Cafes bring grave matters to life
- The Columbus Dispatch (Columbus, Ohio): Facing death, over tea and cake
- Philly Voice (Philadelphia, Pennsylvania): Philadelphia ‘death cafes’ argue it’s time to bring death out of the closet
- Los Angeles Times/Laguna Beach Coastline Pilot: Death Cafe knocks, gently, on heaven’s door