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We Mourn Unexpected Deaths and Religious Intolerance
Saturday night's mass shooting at a gay nightclub in Orlando by a man claiming allegiance to ISIS terrorists has rocked our world. Not only did 49 mostly young people die, once again, the religion of Islam and its adherents are also victims of the violence. Here in New Mexico, hundreds have gathered to publicly mourn. Abdur’Rauf R. Campos-Marquetti, made a statement on behalf of the Islamic Center of New Mexico. He noted that America and the...
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[Video] How to Discuss End-of-Life Care
If you find it difficult to start a conversation about hospice and palliative care, watch this episode of A Good Goodbye TV, now available on YouTube. Host Gail Rubin interviews Mindi Horwitch, LISW, with No Regrets Advanced Care Planning, on discussing and planning for end-of-life care. Surveys show about 70% of people say they want to die at home, but in actuality, 70% of patients wind up dying in the hospital. Because so many people are...
We treat dogs better than people for a peaceful end-of-life
Today, June 9, 2016, the state of California begins allowing physician aid in dying. Terminally-ill people desperate for a peaceful end-of-life option are breathing a sigh of relief. We've been giving this option to our dogs and cats for decades - now a few more people can get it too. It took the actions of 29-year old Brittany Maynard, a Californian with brain cancer, to get the state to sit up and take action on physician aid in dying. She...
June 21: Alabama Funeral Directors Association Presentations
Gail Rubin, CT, is the featured speaker at the 2016 Alabama Funeral Directors Association convention at the Marriott Grand Hotel and Spa Resort in Point Clear, Alabama June 19-22. She is presenting two two-hour continuing education sessions and the evening entertainment on June 21. More than 300 people have registered to attend to date. Here's a description of the talks Gail will present: Jewish Funeral Traditions on Film Yes, there are Jews in...
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[Video] Money Saving Funeral Planning Tips
You can learn a wealth of money-saving tips on this episode of A Good Goodbye TV. Teresa Civello, Medicaid Trust Expert, is interviewed about different ways families can save money on funeral planning. The episode is now available on YouTube. By pre-planning and pre-paying funeral arrangements, that money is not counted when assets are examined for Medicaid qualification. The money is placed in an irrevocable prepaid trust. It can only be spent...
Before I Die Festival Starts End-of-Life Conversations
Cemetery and crematorium visits, a chalk wall to write what you'd like to do before you die, films, book discussions and death-related art were all a part of Indianapolis' Before I Die Festival. I'm all for this kind of event, designed to get people thinking ahead — about topics like what they want to accomplish in their remaining days, end-of-life care, funeral arrangements, wills, organ donation, good deaths and bad — and to spark...
An Honest Obituary: Steven Sacks
You don't often see an obituary that's so honest about the cause of death. Not long ago, medical errors were identified as the third-leading cause of death. Medical errors leading to sepsis caused the death of this man who had done thorough research before hip replacement surgery. In this presidential election year, a suggestion to vote for his candidate closed the piece. Whoever wrote this obituary really conveyed a sense of who this man was....
Facts about Mausoleums, Entombment and Decomposition
Did you know about the decomposition issues that can develop when you put a body in an above-ground mausoleum? We're talking about odorous gasses, leakage and crypt flies. The Doyenne of Death® gets some pretty interesting emails. This just arrived from Jeff Sanger with BioShield, provider of the Hermetic Entombment System, and the CryptFix Hermetic Re-Entombment System. Jeff provides a glimpse into a little-known part of the cemetery business....
ABQ Death Cafe: Don’t Fear the Reaper
Dr. Ernest Becker's Pulitzer Prize-winning book, The Denial of Death, introduced his Terror Management Theory in 1973. We humans are the only animal (we're aware of) that knows we are going to eventually die. And that thought terrifies us. It takes good self-esteem to consider your own mortality, and it's estimated two-thirds of adults have low self-esteem. As a result, the majority of us manage that terror by avoiding the topic. But, as you've...
More Cowbell: The 40th anniversary of ‘(Don’t Fear) the Reaper’
"(Don't Fear) the Reaper" by Blue Öyster Cult first hit the airwaves in May, 1976. I was just graduating from high school, the class of '76. Saturday Night Live was in its infancy. Little did we know the meme "More Cowbell" would come from the convergence of these two pop culture phenomena. The New York Times just explained the amazing life of a song about death in this story, "(Don't Fear) the Reaper is a Creepy Tune, Even With the Cowbell."...
University of Michigan Grief Awareness Week
More than 150 doctors, social workers, medical technicians, and a few funeral directors gathered on Wednesday at the University of Michigan Hospital for my Grief Awareness Week keynote speech, "Laughing in the Face of Death: Movies, Medicine and Mortality." Leading up to the event, two public radio stations did interviews with me about the concept of laughter to break down barriers to discussing end-of-life issues. Check out Michigan Radio's...
Book Review: MORGUE – A Life in Death
People are fascinated by TV crime investigation dramas CSI and NCIS. I've visited our local Office of the Medical Investigator and seen the real-world version of forensic pathology. It's not what they show you on television. That's why it's so refreshing to read MORGUE: A Life in Death by Dr. Vincent DiMaio and Ron Franscell (St. Martin's Press, May 2016). Dr. DiMaio is a forensic pathologist who's performed more than 9,000 autopsies and is an...
Using Computers and Lasers to Create a 3D Sculpture Urn
My husband Dave had his head scanned at the ICCFA convention. No, he wasn't having a medical procedure to examine the inside of his head. Tyler Fraser, CEO of UPD Urns, was using a laser light gun to show how he creates realistic-looking 3D sculptures for memorial urns. "We make 3D printed memorials," said Fraser. "The quality is striking. It's an accurate portrayal of what the person looked like when they were scanned." "This is primarily a...
These Creative Caskets From Trey Ganem Designs Will Amaze You
I first met Trey Ganem when he introduced his creative caskets at ICCFA's 2014 convention, when he had a 10'x10' booth with three caskets. This year, he featured ten fantastically designed and custom-built caskets in a large island exhibit at ICCFA's 2016 convention in New Orleans. In the video below, he starts out with an over-the-top rock and roll casket made for a reality TV show that's filming his endeavors. That model features a playable...
June 4: ABQ Death Cafe
Cookies, tea and mortality! The next Albuquerque Death Cafe will take place on Saturday, June 4, 2016 from 2:00 p.m. to 4:00 p.m. at Gail Rubin’s home. Come to talk about what's on your heart or mind about mortality issues. RSVP through the Meetup Group or post a note in the comment section. Click here to go to the Meetup page. The address will be provided to those who indicate they will attend. The objective of the Death Cafe is “To increase...
May 18: Two Ann Arbor Presentations
Gail Rubin, The Doyenne of Death®, will make two presentations in Ann Arbor, Michigan, on May 18. From 12:30 p.m. to 2:30 p.m., it's “Laughing in the Face of Death: Movies, Medicine and Mortality.” (Click the talk title for a downloadable PDF flyer.) In hospitals, medical professionals, patients and families focus on maintaining life and returning to health. Despite great advances in medical care, humans still have a 100% mortality rate. Using...
Infant Death Made Easier to Handle with Peaceful Memories
Infant death is hard for hospital personnel as well as the family. Transporting the mortal remains can be painful and awkward. Peaceful Memories, of Memories Unlimited, has created the Preshand System™ to give nurses and funeral directors a discreet and respectful way to handle, transport and present a demised infant. Memories Unlimited offers a range of earth-friendly, hand-crafted paper memorial offerings, including Peaceful Return™ urns,...
Save My Ink Forever Makes Tattoos into Life Memorials
People with tattoos are proud of their body art. So don't be surprised when families want to save that piece of a loved one. Save My Ink Forever gives funeral directors a unique way to preserve a life story, and generate revenue in the process. More than 80 million Americans have tattoos, and 40 million have more than one. That's a potentially very big market. Save My Ink Forever exhibited at the International Cemetery Cremation and Funeral...
ClayLinks: An Easy, Affordable, Same-Day Keepsake
After 20 years of perfecting the art of conserving paw prints for pet parents, World By the Tail introduced ClayLinks® Kits, the forever hand print kit for people, at the 2016 ICCFA convention. The hand or foot print mementos are helpful bereavement care tools in hospitals when newborns and infants die. Now funeral directors can use ClayLinks as an easy, affordable keepsake, ready to go home with a family the same day they make funeral...
Unique Products for Funerals and Other Developments
As usual, the expo at the International Cemetery, Cremation and Funeral Association (ICCFA) featured many fascinating developments and unique products. Coverage is rolling out on The Family Plot Blog, continuing over the next few weeks. Right now, you can see these stories with video: an example of a New Orleans jazz funeral, the BodySealer® system, handcrafted cremation urns from Earthhandsfire, Affirmativ Diagnostics brain autopsy and DNA...
Mary Leigh Schaaf Ries Obituary
You've got to love an obituary that names those left behind including, "a mentally deranged chihuahua, Calvin "The Destroyer of Rugs," and a house full of stuff we have no idea what to do with." Here's a notable obituary with a sense of fun, starting with the exit line, "... joined the angel choir," noting her Latin was so good, she corrected priests, and praising her helicopter parenting skills. This was listed in the Cincinnati Enquirer as...