The Family Plot Blog
The Blue-Sky Mausoleum by Frank Lloyd Wright
I recently visited the Forest Lawn Cemetery in Buffalo, New York, a beautiful memorial garden founded in 1849. The rolling hills were covered with amazing statuary, family plots with huge monuments, fascinating memorial markers, and exquisite old crypts. Its 269 acres are the final resting place of more than 152,000 individuals, including President Millard Filmore. The park-like space, with ponds, trees, and flowers, is designed to attract the...
Articles on Funeral Planning
Just posted two articles on funeral planning over at my other web site, www.AGoodGoodbye.com. They are: Funeral Planning for Those Who Don’t Plan To Die In America, death is often regarded as the classic Monty Python routine about the Spanish Inquisition. “Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition! Our chief weapons are fear, surprise, and an almost fanatical devotion to the Pope.” Despite the fact that humans have a 100% mortality rate, we don’t...
Military Funeral Traditions
U.S. military funerals have their own elements that vary by rank. Basic military funeral honors feature an American flag draped over the casket, an honors detail of two or more uniformed military persons, including one being a member of the veteran’s parent service of the armed forces, flag folding and presenting, and the playing of Taps. At graveside, the honor detail conducts a flag-folding ceremony, meticulously folding the flag 13 times,...
Native American Funeral Traditions
The funeral customs of Native Americans, known in Canada as First Nations people, involve the community in activities to honor the deceased and support the family. There are 564 tribes in America, approximately 1.9 million people. Each tribe has their own variation on funeral customs, including use of Native languages, symbols, ceremonial objects and practice. Native people consider the natural world a sacred place, with religious activities...
Wills and Trusts and Why You Need Them
What if someone dies without a will or trust? If you don’t have a will, the state has one for you that dictates which relatives get your assets, whether you want those folks to get your stuff or not. Each state in the U.S. has intestacy statutes that say how assets will be divided upon your death if you don’t have a will. While this varies from state to state, the line of succession usually goes to spouse and kids, parents, siblings, and...
Different Faiths on End-of-Life Issues
Yesterday, I attended a forum with religious leaders from different faiths discussing end-of-life issues, held by the Albuquerque branch of Compassion and Choices. The panelists included the Rev. George Reynolds of the Aquinas Newman Center; Rabbi Min Kantrowitz of Jewish Family Services; Rev. Steven Tvedt of Solamor Hospice, and the Rev. Jan Hosea from St. Chad's Episcopal Church. The moderator was Samuel Roll, PhD. Here are some comments from...
Unitarian Universalist Funeral Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices for Unitarian Universalists. The actual practices of individuals, families, and congregations may vary. Treatment of the body: The body is rarely viewed at the memorial service. Sometimes a visitation is held prior to the service at the funeral home or church. Cremation and embalming are accepted. Funeral or memorial services: The Unitarian Universalist end-of-life ritual is called a memorial...
Talking to Kids About Death
A recent post by Judith Acosta, LISW, CHT on the Huffington Post provides valuable insights on how to talk to children about death. Quoting from her article: There are few words that can silence a group of people faster than the word "death." It is the last great American Taboo. This is an interesting American quirk. We will sit at a table full of people from all walks of life, of all ages and talk about our sex lives, our addiction histories,...
Roman Catholic Funeral Traditions
Roman Catholic Funeral Traditions This post highlights general funeral practices for Roman Catholics. The actual practices of individuals, families, and congregations may vary. There are more than 61 million Roman Catholics in the United States, encompassing many different ethnic traditions. Funerals usually take place within two to three days, possibly up to one week after the death. The first day after a death is usually reserved for the...
Funeral Traditions for Various Orthodox Churches
This post highlights general funeral practices for various Orthodox churches besides Greek Orthodox: Antiochian Orthodox, Carpatho-Russian Orthodox, Romanian Orthodox, Russian Orthodox, Serbian Orthodox and Ukranian Orthodox. The actual practices of individuals, families, and congregations may vary. Treatment of the body: Embalming is accepted. The body is usually viewed during the funeral. Cremation is frowned upon and is cause for the Church...
Mormon (LDS) Funeral Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices for the Mormon Church, also known as the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (LDS). The actual practices of Mormon individuals, families, and congregations may vary. Treatment of the body: The body may be viewed, either at a visitation event at a funeral home and/or during the funeral. Typically the body is buried in all white clothing, signifying purity. If the deceased received blessings...
Methodist Funeral Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices for the Methodist Church. The actual practices of Methodist individuals, families, and congregations may vary. You can read about two examples of Methodist memorial services from the 2010 30 Funerals in 30 Days Challenge: Katherine Spates Buell and Herb Bischoff. There are about twenty-three separate Methodist denominations in the United States, with approximately 8.5 million adherents. A pastor...
Lutheran Funeral Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices for the Lutheran Church. The actual practices of Lutheran individuals, families, and congregations may vary. For two examples of Lutheran memorial services, read these stories from the 30 Funerals in 30 Days Challenge for Carol Ann Exley and Gail Shirley. Treatment of the body: The body may be viewed, either at a visitation event at the funeral home and/or during the funeral. Embalming and...
Jewish Funeral and Mourning Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices of Jews. The actual practices of Jewish individuals, families, and congregations may vary.
Annual Memorial Celebration Thoughts
Today's Dear Abby column features a letter from someone wanting to know if he or she needs to honor Dad's memory in a certain way. "Manipulated in Massachusetts" wrote that Dad died at age 87 after a long, full life. The older brother "insists" the family have an annual celebration on Dad's birthday at a Chinese restaurant that was the father's favorite place to dine. "Everyone in our family showed up at the restaurant, and my mother and...
Islamic Funeral Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices of Muslims. The actual practices of Islamic individuals, families, and congregations may vary. Treatment of the body: The body is never viewed, and embalming is prohibited. The body is washed and wrapped in a white cloth shroud. Muslims are never cremated. Autopsy is prohibited, unless it is requested by court order. Click here to listen to this interview on A Good Goodbye Radio with more details...
Hindu Funeral Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices of Hindus. The actual practices of individual families and congregations may vary. There are approximately one million Hindus in the United States. Hinduism, the majority religion in India, teaches that although the physical body dies, the individual soul has no beginning and no end. After death, a person’s soul is reincarnated into another life form. Karma, or the consequences of one’s actions,...
Buddhist Funeral Traditions
This post highlights general funeral practices of Buddhists. The actual practices of individual families and congregations may vary. There are different observances for Japanese, Cambodian, Thai and Ceylonese (now Sri Lankan) and Tibetan Buddhist traditions, but all believe each individual passes through many reincarnations. Buddhists comprise less than one percent of the U.S. population, with perhaps as many as 1.5 million adherents. There are...
Greek Orthodox Funeral Traditions
This post highlights funeral practices of the Greek Orthodox Church in general. The actual practices of individual families and congregations may vary. Greek Orthodox and Other Orthodox Churches Greek Orthodox funeral traditions have a number of similarities to other Orthodox sects, as well as some significant differences. Other Orthodox Churches include: Antiochian Orthodox, Carpatho-Russian Orthodox, Romanian Orthodox, Russian Orthodox,...
Memorial Day is for Remembering
It's Memorial Day weekend, a time for welcoming summer activities. Please take a moment out of your leisure-filled weekend to honor those who have served in the United States Armed Forces and remember those who died for our country. This Memorial Day, my husband and I will take a trip to the cemetery to visit his father's grave. His dad served as a medic in the Army during the Korean War, and he died last year. It will be our first Memorial Day...
Episcopalian and Anglican Funeral Traditions
This post highlights funeral practices of Episcopalians and Anglicans in general. The actual practices of individual families and congregations will vary within this religious tradition. For an example of an Episcopalian funeral service, read this post about Irene Adele White's service, from the 30 Funerals in 30 Days Challenge. Treatment of the body: The body is rarely viewed and the coffin closed at funerals. A vigil or wake with a closed...