The Family Plot Blog
Celebrating Christmas with Luminaria and End-of-Life Discussions
On this Christmas Eve here in New Mexico, families are lining the sidewalks in their neighborhoods with luminarias, simple paper bags with sand in the bottom and one votive candle. It's a beautiful Christmas tradition, designed to direct the Christ child to the family's home. You may enjoy this Mortality Minute video I did about this tradition of visiting cemeteries on Christmas Eve: https://youtu.be/p0wRZA-J7AY And while you are gathering with...
How to Personalize a Life Celebration
Funerals are becoming "Celebrations of Life." What does that look like? You'd be amazed what can be created within 24 hours to personalize memorial services and put some "fun" in funerals. At the 2017 National Funeral Directors Association convention and expo, Life Celebration, Inc., "Creating color and light in times of darkness," set up a building within the expo hall. The "Reed-Soxman Funeral Home" showcased a wide array of memorial products...
Mexicans Celebrate Their Dead – Why Can’t Americans?
The colorful Day of the Dead (Dia de los Muertos) traditions from Mexico honor their dead in ways Americans would do well to embrace. In a New York Times opinion column, Ilan Stavans wrote about 'Coco' and Mexico's Infatuation With the Afterlife. A few highlights of his thoughts on the topic: For Mexicans, death is earthly. We build altars in our homes with framed photos of the departed next to candles, fruit, bread and candy. This intimacy...
Handful of Home Irish Dirt for Meaningful Burials
Millions of Irish Americans identify with their roots in the Emerald Isle. Now two ladies from Dublin have brought Handful of Home, Original Irish Dirt, to America. For those who claim Irish ancestry, Handful of Home offers the opportunity for burial in contact with earth from their land of origin. "What we wanted to do is help Irish Americans celebrate their cultural heritage at some of the most important moments of their lives," explained...
What Makes This Cremation Retort So Energy Efficient?
A new retort introduced to the industry at the National Funeral Directors Association (NFDA) convention and expo may have the answer in the quest to reduce CO2 emissions generated by cremation. The Facultatieve Technologies FT USA v2 cremation retort uses the body as fuel, to minimize the burning of natural gas in the process of cremation. Ernie Kassoff, National Sales Manager for Facultatieve Technologies, explains the process: "To get correct...
Introducing The Bonsai Urn: Growing Life from Loving Memories
The Bonsai Urn promises "Growing Life from Loving Memories." How? You can give the cremated remains of your loved ones a beautiful, portable resting place combined with an elegant potted plant. The ingenious patent pending design of the Bonsai Urn features an insert for a four-inch pot containing any kind of bonsai plant. Soil and cremated remains are mixed in a center ring, into which the roots can grow over time. The rest of the remains go...
Beloved: Custom Personalized Obituaries and Eulogies
Petra Orloff, a professional writer for more than 25 years, turned her professional skills toward obituary and eulogy writing after her father died in 2004. This year, she founded Beloved, providing the services of professional writers to create custom obituaries and eulogies that become keepsakes treasured by the family over time. Beloved was a first-time exhibitor at the 2017 National Funeral Directors Association convention and expo in...
Nov. 27: You Can Do That – New Trends in Death Care
“We Can Do That? New Trends in Death Care” is the title of the next talk Gail Rubin presents at Albuquerque Oasis on Monday, November 27, 10:30 a.m. to noon. The class will take place at the Oasis offices in American Square Shopping Center, 3301 Menaul Blvd. NE, Suite 18 (on the east side of the shopping center facing American Home Furnishings). Description: The modern funeral is changing. Learn about new death care trends in New Mexico,...
Dec. 16: ABQ Death Cafe
Our first Albuquerque Death Cafe since the Before I Die ABQ Festival will take place Saturday, December 16, 10:00 a.m. to noon at the North Domingo Baca Multigenerational Center, 7521 Carmel Ave. NE. Come relax over some coffee or tea, some cake or cookies, and join in a group discussion to talk about what’s on your mind about mortality issues. The objective of the Death Cafe is “To increase awareness of death with a view to helping people make...
Chilling Investigative Report on Body Donation
For years I've recommended national body donation services as a Plan B backup if a medical school can't take an anatomical gift. Many people want the free cremation offered by medical schools as well as by national companies in exchange for the use of the deceased's body. At a medical school, ideally the deceased's body is studied by students, dissected over a semester of study. The body may be used for other purposes, such as body farms for...
Nov. 11: Authors Fair at the Albuquerque Museum
Saturday, November 11, 10:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. — The second annual 2017 Authors Festival at the Albuquerque Museum of Art & History showcases local writing talent. The finest of the New Mexico writers’ scene will gather at Albuquerque Museum to share their experiences, sell merchandise, and sign books for their fans. The museum is located at 2000 Mountain Road NW. The event is free. Gail Rubin, CT, is among the authors featured in this...
Catch ‘The Departure’ at The Guild Cinema This Week
The Departure is a newly-released documentary that focuses on Ittetsu Nemoto, a former punk-turned-Buddhist-priest in Japan. He has made a career out of helping suicidal people find reasons to live. But this work has come increasingly at the cost of his own family and health, as he refuses to draw lines between those he counsels and himself. The Departure captures Nemoto at a crossroads, when his growing self-destructive tendencies lead him to...
Tonight: Make Community Connections at TEDxABQ Women
Tonight, November 2, 2017, from 5:00 p.m. to 8:00 p.m. in the KiMo Theater, come for an evening of inspired TED talks by nine women speakers at the 2017 TEDxABQ Women event. TEDxABQWomen2017 explores the many aspects of this year’s theme—Bridges—through talks from local leaders, performances and audience engagement. The KiMo is located at 423 Central Ave. NW, Albuquerque. More information and ticket sales through this link. Gail Rubin, event...
One Danger of DIY Funerals: Body Stealing
In most states, families have the right to take care of their dead leading up to final disposition: burial or cremation. One family discovered a danger of DIY funerals - a body stolen during DIY body shipment. As reported in today's Albuquerque Journal, a family in process of transporting a relative's body had their Chevy Trailblazer and the U-Haul it was towing stolen from the Residence Inn where they were staying. The family was transporting...
A Checklist for Jewish Funeral Planning
It's September, the month when the Jewish High Holidays of Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur usually occur, bringing to mind our fleeting days on earth and reminders of mortality. I say "usually" because the dates on the Jewish lunar calendar float year-to-year compared to the Gregorian calendar. This year the Jewish New Year starts the evening of September 20 and the Day of Atonement starts the evening of September 29. During the holidays of Yom...
RIP New Age Pioneer Louise Hay
Louise Hay, a pioneer of New Age thought and the self-help movement, died of natural causes in her sleep at the age of 90 in the early hours of August 30, 2017. The founder of Hay House, Inc., she started a successful publishing company that has sold millions of books and products worldwide. Is it a coincidence that her "transition" occurred two years to the day that Wayne Dyer, one of their top authors, made his move to the Great Beyond? They...
Hundreds Participate in Free Scatter Day Event
By all measurements, the free Scatter Day event at Sunset Memorial Park was a big success. French Funerals & Cremations, which owns Sunset, would have been happy helping 50 families give a final resting place for the cremated remains of their loved ones. The total count of families helped was more than 600. Funeral industry surveys indicate one in five households have human cremated remains somewhere in the home. While some of those...
Celebrity Funerals to Die For
Bob Morris, who was interviewed on A Good Goodbye Radio about his book Bobby Wonderful: An Imperfect Son Buries His Parents, also writes stories for Town & Country Magazine. The September issue features his story How the Celebrity Funeral Became the New Royal Wedding: A look at how the other half dies. Here's a sample of his writing in this great article: Not so long ago funerals for most people were somber affairs. Now death has joined...
Musical Video from the New Zealand Coffin Club
Building your own coffin is a positive way to face your own mortality and improve your woodworking skills at the same time. Back in February of 2017, the New York Times ran a news story about a group of senior citizens in New Zealand who started a D.I.Y. coffin club. Many other such clubs have since sprung up around the world. They bring people together to build their own burial containers, which they playfully call “underground furniture.”...
Headspace Blog on Death Cafes and Mourning
Death Cafe aficionados will appreciate this story on the popular Headspace blog, Death and coffee: how one cafe is breaking taboos, by Maggie Grimason. She interviewed me for the piece and came to an Albuquerque Death Cafe this summer. It focuses on the death positivity movement, and how Death Cafes play a role. A short excerpt: My discomfort with addressing death never receded as I grew up. In fact, it didn’t even strike me as unusual, since...
Honor Your Ancestors at ABQ’s Obon Festival
On Thursday, August 10, from 7:00 to 8:30 p.m., the Japanese Garden at the ABQ BioPark Botanic Garden is hosting an Obon Festival. This is sort of a Japanese version of our local Day of the Dead celebration, a traditional Buddhist festival for honoring one's ancestors. You get to make floating lanterns and send them out on the big koi pond! Here's the official info from the city web site: Obon Festival at Japanese Garden Join us in the Japanese...