In the paid obituary section of the newspaper, also known as death notices, you may see “In Loving Memory” entries. These are messages the family places on anniversary dates – date of birth, date of death, or any special day for that family.
This “In Loving Memory” notice for a little boy who died at two and a half years old reminds us how to speak with bereaved parents. This appeared recently in the Albuquerque Journal for a child who died in 2006, eight years ago.
Parents never get over the loss of a child. It doesn’t matter how long it’s been, how old the child was when they died, or how they died. Grief never ends – don’t think it does.
So never tell a parent whose child has died to move on, get over it, or to be happy. Never say their child is in heaven now when their child should be with them. They already know all of this – because they have to live with it everyday.
What would you do if you lost a child?
We love you and miss you hito – and not a day goes by that we do not think of you and wonder what you would be like today.
Love Daddy, Mama and Sister Leslie
Powerful words – powerful pain. Keep this “In Loving Memory” obituary in mind before you speak to bereaved parents, no matter how long it has been since the death of a child.