Writing Condolence Cards and Letters

May 11, 2010 | 2 comments

Caring people send a card, letter, or note of condolence upon hearing news of a death. Taking time out of our busy lives to acknowledge a death and say that the person will be missed helps us better appreciate being alive.

Condolence communications need not be intimidating. Just buying a card and signing your name is easy, but not as comforting to the recipient as it could be. Adding one or two lines on what the deceased person meant to you makes all the difference in the world.

You might consider using sentences such as:

  • We loved (name) and we’ll miss (him/her) more than you will know.
  • I always admired (his/her) (positive character attribute, such as sense of humor, generosity, knowledge).
  • (Name) was a good person and I’m so glad I had the chance to know (him/her).
  • In (name’s) honor, we have made a contribution to (organization).

A line in support of the bereaved is also appropriate:

  • Please let us know if there’s anything we can do to help.
  • I’ll be in touch in another week or so to see how you’re doing.
  • May I take you to lunch next week?

Add a few additional sentences with a short story about a memory of the deceased, and you’ll have a beautiful condolence letter. It doesn’t matter if you write on a card, on stationery, or plain old paper. Taking the time to write, address an envelope, and mail your communication speaks volumes. And yes, you may send an email, but remember the family’s routine has been shattered and they may not be online for a while.

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