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The American Way of (Denying) Death

by Gail Rubin
June 20th, 2011

The Financial Times of London recently ran this thought-provoking column about the American way of living and dying with our current medical system. The author, Kiran Gupta, is a doctor in Boston.

Here in the US, efforts to reform end-of-life care quickly lead to concerns about “pulling the plug on grandma”. Dying is inevitable. Doctors are not divine; we cannot cure everyone. But the US healthcare system – which emphasises heroic interventions using advanced technologies – sometimes leads physicians to believe that death is a failure.

Patients such as Mr B would disagree. Despite losing 30lb in a month, the old man only came to the hospital because he was having trouble swallowing, making it difficult for him to enjoy his meals. Examination showed a large, firm mass on the right side of his neck, a likely indication of cancer. The specialists recommended a “trach and peg” – shorthand for the insertion of breathing and feeding tubes.

But Mr B resisted. “No tubes. I don’t want no tubes,” he pleaded. “I’m 89 years old. I’ve lived a good life. I hear the bugle calling from the other side. My lady friend is gone. My friends are gone. If it’s time, it’s time.” It all seemed so simple to him. Not so, however, when it came to relaying this news up the hospital hierarchy.

The oncology fellow’s voice sounded shrill on the phone. “But this is totally treatable! He just needs chemo. What do you mean he doesn’t want a trach and peg? We could get him through this. I’m going to talk to the attending.” Dial tone. She had hung up.

The well-known bioethicist George Annas once referred to America as having a “death-denying culture that cannot accept death as anything but defeat … we are utterly unable to prepare for death.” When Barack Obama attempted to address end-of-life care as part of healthcare reform, Sarah Palin accused him of forming “death panels” – deciding who lived and who died.

Like it or not, Americans need to accept that healthcare dollars are rationed. But this is not the only reason that things need to change. Too many of our elderly patients die without dignity. “Maximal medical therapy” can mean taking their last breaths in the midst of a bloody code – a chaotic scene at the hospital bed. Why do we do it? Because society demands it.

To read the full article, visit this link:

http://www.ft.com/cms/s/2/87fd9a20-96f6-11e0-aed7-00144feab49a.html#ixzz1PmNETf7f

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  1. Margie says:
    June 20, 2011 at 12:44 pm

    I believe more and more people will want to choose to die well before the medical community is finished treating them. And why not? Why shouldn’t each of us have the choice of ending our lives when we feel our body is losing the battle?

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  2. Linda Watson says:
    June 23, 2011 at 2:18 pm

    No doubt death has always been difficult to deal with. I hunch that many of the finest examples of insight and beauty in art, religion and culture have arisen out of an encounter with death, confrontation with one’s own mortality and a need to make sense of a universe in which death and life coexist.

    We in the north and west have industrialized and “technologized” ourselves away from contact with nature and its cycles that we have lost our way, somewhat: lost the balance nature requires of us. We have become prodigious consumers, always wanting MORE and BETTER and trumpeting (in what may be our death throes) the virtues of expansion, interest on investment, growth charts that only point in one direction, and colonization of all arenas in our reach, that we’ve tipped too far towards triumph.

    Death is not a failure. Death is a part of life and not its antithesis. It seems to me that we need to learn to talk about death, to develop a vocabulary for finitude, before we face the end of this life if we are to embrace it with grace. We’d all be healthier for it, including health care professionals. Mr. B knew what he needed. The “oncology fellow” would have done well just to slow down and listen.

    Linda Watson
    http://talkaboutdeath.blogspot.com

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