Recommended Reading for Healthcare Decisions Day

Apr 16, 2012 | 1 comment

Studies indicate 73% of Americans would prefer to die at home, but up to 50% die in hospital settings. It takes courage and determination to carry out a loved one’s wishes for end-of-life care. Knowing what those wishes are and discussing them is the first step.

Since today is National Healthcare Decisions Day, it’s a good day to look at books with great information about end-of-life issues that can help start advance directive conversations.

If a family member says he or she wants to die at home, I recommend the following books for those caring for a dying loved one. The links in the titles (in color) take you directly to the corresponding page.

Coming Home: A Practical and Compassionate Guide to Caring for a Dying Loved One by Deborah Duda

Coming Home provides end-of-life care guidance that helps the reader acknowledge feelings of fear and guilt, and transform them with love. It provides helpful resources and practical information on preparing the home, talking openly about dying, legal and medical considerations, and how to be with someone in their final days. The book was first published in 1981 and the fourth edition came out in 2010.

The Last Gifts: Creative Ways to Be with the Dying by Jillian Brasch, OTR

The Last Gifts shares 17 first-hand accounts by an occupational therapist in a hospice program and her work with dying patients. Jillian Brasch details ways to help family be present and comfortable and help the dying patient to meet their final goals. Written for anyone in the vicinity of a dying person, this award-winning book is practical and insightful, with a direct simplicity that makes it entertaining and easy to read.

Dying the RIGHT Way: A System of Caregiving & Planning for Families by Janice Louise Long

While the title lacks appeal, Dying the RIGHT Way provides a lot of good information. The book draws upon the author’s experiences caring for her parents during their final four years. It is a guide for keeping elders or others requiring long-term care healthy as long as possible. The caregiving information includes tips, forms, checklists, and questions to ask. It also provides guidance for funeral planning and steps toward settling an estate.

The Needs of the Dying: A Guide for Bringing Hope, Comfort, and Love to Life’s Final Chapter by David Kessler

The Needs of the Dying uses comforting and touching stories to provide information that helps meet the needs of families and a dying loved one. David Kessler, a student and coauthor with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, identifies key areas of concern for the dying: the need to be treated as a living human being, the need for hope, expressing emotions, participating in care, the need for honesty, spirituality and to be free of physical pain.

Any of these books can foster the conversations we need to have with our families on National Healthcare Decisions Day – or any other day, for that matter.

If you can only handle reading one page, check out The One Slide Project from the nonprofit organization Engage With Grace. The One Slide has five questions about how a loved one would want to be treated should they not be able to communicate. Download a PDF or JPG file with The One Slide Project today!

A Good Goodbye