Albuquerque Death Café Tackles a Taboo Topic Over Tea and Cake

Oct 5, 2013 | 2 comments

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One hundred percent of humans will die – death is not optional. But talking about it? Most folks don’t want to go there… until now.

The worldwide Death Café movement is changing all that, bringing strangers together over tea and cake to discuss mortality concerns. Stories about it have appeared in the New York Times, USA Today, Boston Globe, NPR, and many other news outlets.

Albuquerque, a pioneering site for U.S. Death Cafés, was the second in the nation when it was first held in September 2012. Since then, local Death Café facilitator Gail Rubin, speaker and author of A Good Goodbye: Funeral Planning for Those Who Don’t Plan to Die, has held four events in the Duke City and has two others scheduled in southern New Mexico on October 12 and 13.

The next Albuquerque Death Café will take place on Wednesday, October 30, 4:00 p.m. to 6:00 p.m. at Sheila’s Sweets, 8600 Indian School Road NE. The event is free, and attendees are encouraged to purchase refreshments. October 30 is also the 14th annual Create a Great Funeral Day.

“Talking about sex won’t make you pregnant, and talking about death won’t make you dead,” said Rubin. “Everyone is welcome to attend and join in the conversation.”

The Death Café objective is “To increase awareness of death with a view toward helping people make the most of their (finite) lives.” The Death Café concept started in England, where “stiff-upper-lip” Brits have an especially hard time talking about death. Founder Jon Underwood modeled it on the café mortel created by Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz.

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To participate, contact Gail Rubin at 505-363-7514 or

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