First Death Café in Albuquerque to be held September 30, 2012

Free event helps people talk about mortality with tea and cake

The first Death Café west of the Mississippi will be held in Albuquerque on Sunday, September 30 from 3:00 to 5:00 p.m. At this free, RSVP-only event, people come together in a relaxed, confidential and safe setting to discuss death, drink tea (or your favorite beverage) and eat delicious cake or cookies.

“As The Doyenne of Death, I’m all about helping to start this conversation, and the Death Café is a wonderful way to take this topic out of the dark,” said Gail Rubin, coordinator of the event. “Death, if it’s discussed at all, is usually spoken about in furtive, low whispers. We’re all headed down this path eventually, let’s talk about our concerns, our hopes and fears.”

The Death Café concept started in England, where “stiff-upper-lip” Brits have an especially hard time talking about death. Founder Jon Underwood modeled it on the café mortel created by Swiss sociologist Bernard Crettaz. Underwood held his first Death Café event September 2011 in London. Hospice volunteer and thanatologist Lizzy Miles coordinated the first U.S. Death Café held in Columbus, Ohio July 2012.

Gail Rubin is author of A Good Goodbye: Funeral Planning for Those Who Don’t Plan to Die. Additional Death Café events may be scheduled in the future. For more information visit and the ABQ Death Café event page.

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What:  Albuquerque’s First Death Café, a free event where participants discuss mortality issues and questions

When: Sunday, September 30, 2012, 3:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m.

Where: Disclosed only to registered participants

How to Register: To participate, email a note to Gail[at] with your name, email, phone, city, state and how you heard about the event. She’ll send the location for Albuquerque’s first Death Cafe event directly.


Media Contact: Gail Rubin

Phone: 505-265-7215 or cell 505-363-7514

Email: Gail[at]



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